Life Coach 💜 International Retreat Leader 🌎 Wife 💏 Light-Seeker ✨ Truth Teller 🙌🏽 Author 📖
It's not your partner's job to make you happy 😳⠀ ⠀ Yes, they should be kind, loving, respectful and supportive.⠀ ⠀ But it isn't their job to make you happy.⠀ ⠀ It's your job to make you happy.⠀ ⠀ This took Jonny and I quite some time to figure out...but once we did everything shifted.⠀ ⠀ We stopped putting unrealistic expectations on each other. ⠀ ⠀ We stopped needing the other person to show up a certain way.⠀ ⠀ And we were able to just love one another exactly as they were.⠀ ⠀ In this, we became responsible for making ourselves happy, so that we could then show up as the best possible versions of ourselves for each other.⠀ ⠀ When we did that, our relationship flourished.⠀ ⠀ Not to say we still don't get in fights here and there - we totally do...because marriage is hard at times. ⠀ ⠀ But we are able to take ownership for our end of the disagreements and not be co-dependent on the other person to make us feel one way or another.⠀ ⠀ My encouragement is if you can relate to this post, to find a way to make yourself happy and then watch how you start to show up in your relationships differently...because then you will be showing up from a space of WANTING that person so you can share your joy with them....rather than NEEDING them to make you happy.⠀ ⠀ This shift is everything.⠀ ⠀ And if you are struggling to find ways to be happy in your life and relationships, send me a message - I would love to chat to see how I can help support you. 💖
Double Tap if you are ready to get out of this winter weather! (We are, it's currently -12 F as I write this). Which is why we are so excited to become Modern Day Snowbirds and are taking off for 6 weeks of remote work in Oaxaca, Mexico!⠀ ⠀ We are living with other friends who can also work remote and it is pretty much going to be Real World Mexico….but hopefully with way less drama. 😉⠀ ⠀ Have you ever dreamt of working remotely too? ⠀ ⠀ If so, here are a few tips on how we were able to make 6 weeks of remote work in Mexico a reality:⠀ ⠀ 1. We’ve created careers that allow us to have the freedom to work from anywhere in the world. At one point, this idea of remote work was just a dream of mine, but over the past 6 years I’ve worked really hard to make this a reality. I’ve invested in myself, and invested in receiving my own coaching, so that I could make this happen – because yes, even life coaches need life coaches.⠀ ⠀ 2. This wasn’t a last minute decision. We’ve been planning this for over 7 months. We’ve taken our time, met multiple times with our friends we will be living with, created agreements around our living situation, and kept the planning process super fun.⠀ ⠀ 3. We found ways to make this as affordable as possible. We have someone sub-leasing our house. We have friends coming to visit and they are renting out our guest room in Mexico to help offset the rent there. And we have been saving over the past 7 months so that financially we are all set for this trip. ⠀ ⠀ 4. Travel and Adventure are core values of ours, so we make sure to live our lives according to those values. This means that no matter how complicated it is to leave our lives in Minnesota for 6 weeks, we are willing to make it happen because we know that travel lights us up and makes us feel alive.⠀ ⠀ And as for this pic...I'm not always dressed as twins with my husband, but when I do it’s because we are staying warm in our @armadaskis gear...⠀ ⠀ Have questions about working remotely? Let me know in the comments 👇🏼 and stay tuned for updates on our Oaxacan Adventure!
You know that still small voice that you hear whispering to you inside of your head?⠀ ⠀ That one that you maybe don't listen to often enough?⠀ ⠀ Listen to her. Because that voice of intuition will never lead you astray.⠀ ⠀ As you head into the weekend, pay attention to your intuition and where it is guiding you...⠀ ⠀ Especially if you are feeling confused about a situation...slow down and listen and give this gift to yourself.⠀ ⠀ It's the gift of your truth.⠀ ⠀ Listen to it. Let it guide you. And then give gratitude for this innate wisdom that is inside of you.⠀ ⠀ Happy Weekend Friends 🌟
If you are like me, your days are busy and filled from going to one thing to the next, to the next, to the next.⠀ ⠀ It can be hard to slow down and find time to reflect, write and spend some quality time on ourselves.⠀ ⠀ And if you are like me, you want to commit to something - but only if you can actually complete it and do it so that you feel like you’ve won. ⠀ ⠀ I love winning at things that I commit to. And I hate it when I commit to something and then can’t follow through.⠀ ⠀ This is why I have created the Purpose Path Journal and made it so easy to answer 4 journal questions in 10 minutes a day or less.⠀ ⠀ I knew that in order for me to follow-through with the Purpose Path Journal, that I needed to set myself up to succeed.⠀ ⠀ And I knew that if I stopped looking at my phone in the mornings, and instead used 10 minutes to journal that I would easily complete the journal prompts everyday and would also feel much better about myself.⠀ ⠀ Guess what? It worked!⠀ ⠀ Once I committed to taking the 10 minutes each morning to journal, I easily made the time. And after a few days of journaling, not only did I want to make the time but I was excited for my journaling sessions because I knew that they made me feel so good!⠀ ⠀ So with that, I invite you to do the same.⠀ ⠀ This is a gift that you get to give to yourself, so that you can feel better about yourself and then make a more positive impact on the world around you. ⠀ ⠀ Commit to taking 10 minutes out of your morning to journal and commit to doing it for 7 days in a row so that you can win!⠀ ⠀ You can download the Purpose Path Journal for free at the link in my bio! Click on the link, then click on this post and it will take you right there!
This is my absolute favorite question that I get to ask my clients.⠀ ⠀ It is my favorite because oftentimes we hold ourselves back and don't let ourselves even speak out loud our deepest, most heartfelt dreams, for fear that if we speak it, it gives it power, which also means that we could possibly fail at it.⠀ ⠀ "Possibly" being the key word there...because if we also keep our dreams to ourselves, then we don't energize them and put them out there for the Universe to help support us in it. So we stay comfortable and safe, and our dreams sometimes stay in our heads instead of getting out into the world.⠀ ⠀ So this is why I love getting my clients to answer this question - because it is so fun to be able to hear their dreams and then help to make them a reality. ⠀ ⠀ One goal that would bring me tremendous joy and make my 💙 sing is to give birth to a healthy baby, take a 3 month maternity leave, and then work only 20 hours a week so I can be a mom the rest of the time. ⠀ ⠀ That to me sounds totally dreamy. And we are crossing our fingers 🤞🏼that we will be blessed with that sweet babe and make this dream a reality this year. ⠀ ⠀ What about you? What is one thing that if you could create for yourself would just bring you so much joy and make your heart beyond happy?⠀ If you have a heartfelt goal that you want support in, I have a few spaces open in my coaching practice for 2019 - and I would love to help you make your dream a reality. ⠀ ⠀ Message me some info about why you are interested in coaching and I'll send you a link where we can set up a time to talk!
This past weekend I was honored to lead a women’s retreat at this adorable cabin in the Minnesota woods.⠀ ⠀ It all came together because when one of my clients heard that I was moving home to Minnesota, she asked if I could come and lead a retreat for her friends.⠀ ⠀ She said that she wanted to be able to share all of the tools that she learned from coaching with the women in her life that she loved.⠀ ⠀ So together we created the Women’s Mastery Retreat! We had 11 women come together for the day – we journaled, laughed, cried, shared our hearts and our truth, and left feeling closer with each other and ourselves. It was magical. ⠀ ⠀ At the end of the day during our closing share the women said:⠀ ⠀ -“I feel so much lighter than when I walked in here this morning!”⠀ ⠀ -“I’m leaving having learned tools that can really help me in my life.”⠀ ⠀ -“I sorted through my inner garbage and got rid of some of it!”⠀ ⠀ -“I learned that it is ok to be vulnerable, and that all of us are going through something hard in our lives – it isn’t just me.”⠀ ⠀ -“I realized that my life can’t just revolve around taking care of my children, that I need to take care of myself too.”⠀ ⠀ Needless to say, our hearts were full, and I was once again amazed at the magic that happens when a group of women come together.⠀ ⠀ I also was so inspired at how much change occurred during this one-day retreat, and it reminded me of the deep, lasting transformation that happens during our week-long retreats as well.⠀ ⠀ If you are reading this and wish that you too could experience something similar, consider joining us in Mexico for our retreat this May! This and more is available to you.⠀ ⠀ Head to the link in my bio to find out more about our next retreat!
Double tap if this first week back at work after the Holidays has been tougher on you than you thought?⠀ ⠀ If so, remember to give yourself some grace and have some compassion for yourself.⠀ ⠀ And remember to use everything in your life (especially the challenges) as opportunities for learning, upliftment and growth.⠀ ⠀ Whenever I am going through a challenging time, I know that I am on the brink of some sort of breakthrough. ⠀ ⠀ Knowing that helps me to keep going, because I can understand that on some level this is all for me.⠀ ⠀ So if you are feeling challenged, know that growth is happening and that a breakthrough is on it's way!⠀ ⠀ And remember to love yourself and go have some fun this weekend... ⠀ ⠀ TGIF baby 🌟
Does anyone else feel a bit sad that Christmas is over and it is time to take all of the decorations down? ⠀ 🙋🏼⠀ I loved not traveling for the holidays this season and being able to fully decorate our house....it's been so fun, especially because last year we traveled so much we didn't even have a Christmas Tree...⠀ 🎄⠀ One of our favorite decorations this year were all of the amazing cards we received from our friends and family. We hung them around our giant mirror and it was so fun to look at your faces everyday! ⠀ 😍⠀ Our goal for 2019 is to be settled enough that we will have the space/time to send them out too! But this year it just didn't happen...and that's ok.⠀ 😜⠀ But next year...we are coming for your mailboxes!! 🤞🏼
When I first heard this quote the other day, I wasn't sure if I believed it to be true...⠀ ⠀ But then I started thinking about how bad-ass humans are when they don't put limitations on themselves...⠀ ⠀ Like people who ski with no legs, or rock climb with one arm, or summitt Everest as a paraplegic.⠀ ⠀ These people are incredible, & they do these things because they tell themselves they can, & they don't put limitations on themselves.⠀ ⠀ Yet here I am, putting limitations on what I think I can and can't do in my business or life. ⠀ And I let my limitations hold me back, or scare me into staying safe.⠀ ⠀ And I'm sure that many of you do too...⠀ ⠀ How often have you straight up said "I can't do that because...." & let your limitations keep you stuck?⠀ ⠀ Yesterday, how many of you saw the announcement of our Mexico Surf Retreat & had limitations come up around why you can't go? ⠀ ⠀ "Because you can't surf, take vacation, leave your kids, take a week for yourself, spend the money just on you," etc.?⠀ ⠀ This is one of the main reasons that we are running this retreat - to help us break through our limitations.⠀ ⠀ Surfing is one of the hardest sports I've ever tried.⠀ ⠀ While I wish that I could look as sexy as Kate Bosworth does in Blue Crush - I unfortunately fall off my board a lot...even in baby waves.⠀ ⠀ Yet, I keep getting back on - because I don't want my limitations to stop me - & I'm determined to be able to stand on that damn board, no matter how hard it is.⠀ ⠀ On our retreat we are going to be looking at how we relate to surfing and what limitations we put on ourselves with this sport, and then tie that into the rest of our lives to get super clear on how we limit ourselves in other areas as well.⠀ ⠀ We will be doing this so that when the retreat ends and you go home, you will be going home having found a strength you didn't know you had.⠀ ⠀ You will be able to spot your limitations so they will no longer hold you back.⠀ ⠀ And you will have had time to upgrade to a new you.⠀ ⠀ All because you allowed yourself to say yes & not let limitations hold you back.⠀ ⠀ Interested? Head to my bio for more info, or leave a 🏄♀️ icon in the comments & I’ll message you!
Taking time for myself = selfish.⠀ ...⠀ Or at least that’s the limiting story we tell ourselves - and one that won’t set us up for success in 2019. ⠀ ...⠀ So, when did you last take time just for yourself? ⠀ ...⠀ We know you’re busy. You’ve got a career, a business, family, bills to pay, and a lot of other responsibilities. Taking time for yourself often gets put last on the list. ⠀ ...⠀ As you think about 2019, are you creating space just for you? You deserve you-time. And no, it’s not selfish, because you need to take care of yourself first so you can then take care of others. ⠀ ...⠀ Most people take a vacation that leaves them more exhausted than when they started. ⠀ ...⠀ Well, we want to invite you to consider a retreat that would help you become a more loving partner, a more patient parent, a better employee, a more successful business owner. ⠀ ...⠀ How? ⠀ ...⠀ By helping you find strength you didn’t know you had, using surfing as a catalyst for change. ⠀ ...⠀ Join us in Oaxaca, Mexico on our next surf retreat May 4-10th, 2019. ⠀ ...⠀ And, if you don’t know how to surf, you’re in luck: we’re not that good at it either. Knowing how to surf is not the point. ⠀ ...⠀ Head to the link in my bio for more info!⠀ ...⠀ Who do you know who would love to go on a surf retreat? Tag them below!
Alright lets hear yours in the comments!⠀ Some of mine are....⠀ ⠀ - Paint That Shit Gold⠀ ⠀ - Stop procrastinating. Start writing. ⠀ ⠀ - Love My Body Fully⠀ ⠀ - Co-Create with God⠀ ⠀ - Focus on what matters⠀ ⠀ - Get off dat phone⠀ ⠀ What are some of yours? #my4wordnewyearsresolution
Merry Christmas! My ❤️ is overflowing with gratitude for all of the blessings in our lives this year....especially because I remember years past when Christmas hasn’t always felt as easy as this one did...⠀ ⠀ So, for those of you who are scrolling and having a harder Christmas than you had hoped for...if you are missing someone you love, grieving, going through a divorce, feeling alone, wishing that you too had a kid to do 🎅🏼 with on Christmas (because you’ve been telling yourself for years that “next year at Christmas we will have a baby!”), or so many other things that can make our heart 💔 over Christmas - know that I’m thinking of you & sending you light. ⠀ ⠀ And while I don’t know what each and everyone of you are going through, I do understand the pain of how hard Christmas can be.⠀ ⠀ 11 years ago my ex-husband told me he wanted a divorce right around Christmas. It was devastating.⠀ ⠀ And it’s been on my 💚 the past few days to simply send out a message of love to those of you who are hurting right now too.⠀ ⠀ I’ve felt called to share that no matter how much your heart may be hurting right now, to try not to numb out too much and instead to find ways to be present in the joy, magic and miracles that surround you this time of year.⠀ ⠀ Because if you allow yourself to look, you’ll find it. ⠀ ⠀ And you are worthy of finding it and letting it in today - even if it is just a little bit. ⠀ ⠀ Let the joy and magic come in - allow yourself to laugh and be inspired by love, and trust that there will be a future Christmas where you will be happy again. ⠀ ⠀ Last night, I sat around the dinner table with my family and reflected back to how 😢 I was 11 years ago and how I couldn’t see what the future held for me then, but now today how grateful I am for all the joy, love and grace in my life.⠀ ⠀ My deepest hope, is that for those who are reading this and resonate with this message of having your heart feel sad this Christmas - that you know that there is a deep love waiting and available to you - whether that is love from yourself, from God, or from another person - that this loving is available.⠀ ⠀ Merry Christmas friends. Loving you and wishing miracles of light🌟
Today is the Winter Solstice. Which means it is the longest and darkest night of the year.⠀ ⠀ It also means that it is a turning point, signifying the rebirth of the sun and the return of the light. ⠀ ⠀ The Winter Solstice is one of my favorite days of winter, because it brings me hope that the days will be getting longer again and that soon it won’t be pitch black out at 4 freaking 30 in the afternoon (Minnesota winters are rough like that). ⠀ ⠀ But the solstice is also a reminder to me to let go of what is no longer needed anymore. ⠀ ⠀ It is a reminder that from darkness, inspiration and light always eventually emerge.⠀ ⠀ It is an opportunity to release old patterns and welcome the light as we seek inspiration and begin a new cycle. ⠀ ⠀ Despite all the darkness, it is actually a really beautiful time of year – which is why I think I love it so much. ⠀ ⠀ For Solstice, our family has a tradition to go down to Lake Superior and have a fire. In the fire we throw in oak leaves and holly leaves as a way of signifying the past 6 and months and the next 6 months that are on their way. ⠀ ⠀ What about you? Do you have something special that you do on the Winter Solstice? If so, let me know in the comments below! ⠀ ⠀ Have a great day everyone – and let that light of yours shine!
A few weeks ago, I shared what felt like the scariest blog post I’d ever written. ⠀ I shared about the story of our recent miscarriage and how Jonny and I are a part of the 25% of parents who experience pregnancy loss. ⠀ Prior to sharing that blog, I sat on it for about 2 weeks. I was terrified to share it. I had all these stories going through my head around why I couldn’t share it and how it was too raw, or too vulnerable. ⠀ I was afraid about what would people think, and if what I was sharing was too much. While I was talking with some close friends around whether to share our story publicly or not, I said to them: “I know that because I have so much fear and so much resistance around this that I know I need to share it. I know there is something huge for me on the other side of this if I give myself permission to share our story.” My friends reminded me that through sharing I was serving others and I was creating an opening for others to talk about their experience with pregnancy loss, as it is something rarely spoken about. ⠀ So the next day I mustered up all the courage I could and pressed publish on my blog post, and I’m so glad that I published it (if you scroll my Insta page you can read it there...it's the one titled #ihadamiscarriage). Head to the link in my bio to read the story about what happened once it went live and how sharing what felt so scary to me, actually served and supported so many other women who are grieving their own pregnancy loss as well. ⠀ AND, if you are interested in sharing more authentically in your business, life or social media platform, then this post in my bio will also tell you about the 3 things I have learned that made it a little bit easier to tell my stories in service to others.⠀ ⠀ Enjoy the read - and use your voice to share your stories - our world needs more authentic truth tellers in it right now!
Alright coaches - if you want to know how to grow a 6-7 figure coaching business...here is your not-so-simple, yet very honest answer...⠀ ⠀ This is a letter that Master Coach Carolyn Fryer Jones @cfjcoaching recently wrote to answer the question "HOW does SOMEONE MAKE 6 OR 7 FIGURES IN THE PROFESSION OF COACHING?"⠀ ⠀ It is so good that I have read it multiple times, printed it out and sent it to my clients who are currently growing their coaching practices. ⠀ ⠀ Read it. Study it. Save this post. Here is what Carolyn has to say...⠀ ....⠀ "AN OPEN LETTER TO THE COACH WHO ASKS this FANTASTIC QUESTION -HOW does SOMEONE MAKE 6 OR 7 FIGURES IN THE PROFESSION OF COACHING?⠀ ⠀ This is a great question - a milestone in a coaches trajectory.⠀ ⠀ Even if the question is being asked in frustration, upset, or outright anger, it's a great day when a coach is looking around asking, "HOW ARE THEY DOING THIS?"⠀ ⠀ If used properly, this is a game changing question.⠀ GAME CHANGING.⠀ ⠀ IF you are willing to listen to the answer and do something different than what you have been doing up until now.⠀ ⠀ Coach, I would search high and low until YOU get your question answered by a coach in a live conversation who HAS WHAT YOU WANT professionally (a 6 or 7 figure practice) and they will give you STRAIGHT answers. Because it's not an easy or short answer.⠀ Here are my true and real answers, and the answers of the coaches I know who are experiencing consistent high levels of earnings (6 or 7 figures), for your consideration:⠀ ⠀ 1. These coaches (this includes me) are not spending any money on marketing at all - and no money on teams of any kind. Maybe they have one person who helps them sometimes - and that's it, if at all. No marketing whatsoever. A decent website is the only "marketing" expenditure."⠀ ⠀ (the rest is included in the comments below).⠀
I first met this guy here 👆🏼 in Belize when I was 23 years old.⠀ ⠀ A few months before that I had recently gone through a divorce (I was married and divorced within the same year - it was a year of both incredible bliss and excruciating pain). ⠀ ⠀ And after my divorce, I took off to Belize to volunteer abroad and take some time to find myself again.⠀ ⠀ While I was there, I fell in love with the country of Belize and also fell in love with the Director of my volunteer program...aka this guy 👆🏼 right here. ⠀ ⠀ Over the years we dated long distance while he lived in Belize and Peru. Then we moved in together and lived in Mexico for 1.5 years, Colorado for 6 years, and this summer just moved to Minnesota.⠀ ⠀ We also broke up twice during all of that because relationships aren't always the easiest, most straight forward things ya know? ⠀ ⠀ Then, after I waited for 7 freaking long years he finally proposed and we got married in the jungle of Belize with 75 of our closest friends and family who came down for our week-long adventure destination wedding.⠀ ⠀ Now, as part of our coaching businesses, I’m super lucky that I get to work with my husband to create fun and transformational travel experiences for people who want to create positive change in their lives. ⠀ ⠀ Our goal is to help you open your eyes, open your heart, and allow you to have some epic fun at the same time. ⠀ We will soon be announcing our upcoming retreat that we are SO excited about! It’s a new type of retreat that we have never done before...Stay tuned!
Can you relate? You are great at keeping your word to everyone else...but suck at keeping it to yourself...⠀ ⠀ Aka - you tell yourself that you are going to do something and then don't follow through. ⠀ ⠀ Or you commit to something and just stick with it for a day or a week, but can't stick with it for longer than that.⠀ ⠀ I hear you. You aren’t alone.⠀ ⠀ My client's come to me and ask me why it's so hard to have self-discipline...⠀ ⠀ And I tell them...⠀ ⠀ It's because your basic self doesn't trust you, because you keep telling yourself that you are going to do something and then you break your word to yourself over and over again. ⠀ ⠀ And when you do this you stop creating self-trust. ⠀ ⠀ So it's time to change that so that you CAN trust yourself again...⠀ ⠀ Because the most important person in your ENTIRE life to keep your word to is yourself.⠀ ⠀ You need to take care of yourself first, so you can then help take care of others.⠀ ⠀ So my encouragement for you is to find one small thing that you can commit to, and then keep your word to yourself come hell or high water. ⠀ ⠀ As you start to do this, everything in your life will start to improve. ⠀ ⠀ Post one emoji in the comments that describes to you something that you are willing to start committing to - not for anyone else, but just for yourself - because you are worth it. ⠀ ⠀ For me it is ✍🏼 and 🚴🏼♀️
Jonny and I are always searching for the next best books 📚 to read to support us in our business, life and relationship. And we are constantly recommending great books to our clients.⠀ ⠀ This year, we have created a reading list of the top 15 books that we read in 2018 around money, personal development, and some we read just for fun (it can’t all be work and no play, right?).⠀ ⠀ This list includes books that helped Jonny double his income 💰 ⠀ Books that helped us understand death and supported us through our miscarriage 💔 ⠀ Books that made us laugh 😆 And cry 😢 And helped us get back together after our breakup 6 years ago 💞 ⠀ And books that even helped me to wash my face more 😉⠀ ⠀ We've complied this entire list to help you narrow down the best books that you want to read for 2019.⠀ ⠀ To see the list, head over to my bio, click on the link and then click on this post and it will take you right there! ⠀ ⠀ And to add to the list...let me know in the comments 👇🏼 what was your favorite book that you read in 2018?