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The Free Man
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1 Day 12 Hours Ago

Posted with Repost • @karansinghinsta This guy saw me making a video of 140kg deadlifts, entered the video, did more reps than me AND made it look easy. He wasnt even doing back, he was working out shoulders! So first off I did not give my best 💩, second, next time ill beat you @sirhud.kalra #fitness #deadlifts #allornothing #gameon #powerlifting #bodybuilding #indianfitness #indianfitnessblogger #fitfam #punefitness

Chinese style photograph19 #Chinese #Chinatrends #Chinaclassic

Chinese long noodles #chineseculture #noodles #chinese food

The Free Man
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8 Days 14 Hours Ago

Waistcoats - the one thing that can upgrade any outfit and make a man stand out in a room full of boringly dressed men. What you’re seeing me wear here in this shot with @_abix_ is a double breasted charcoal waistcoat that I’ve designed myself. The fabric is worsted wool, a lightweight one, albeit I designed this to be a part of my 3 piece suit for when I had an office job in a cold country. The reason I chose lightweight fabric is so that the waistcoat is versatile for me - which means I can wear it formally as part of my suit, or even keep it on without the blazer in the office - so that it works for me in all seasons. I’ve also coupled this with a dark polo a few times, and semi to formal kinds of trousers - for light winters such as the ones we experience in western India or southern Europe. Hopefully this post encourages more of you to utilise the waistcoats in your wardrobe, as the last chills of winter are upon us. Got any style or waistcoat related questions? Comment them below and I’ll answe you :)

China top actress 2018 Xiaotong Guan #Chinese #Chinastars #Chinesebeauty

The Free Man
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16 Days 17 Hours Ago

“He constantly recurs to his fundamental principle that the universe is wisely ordered, that every man is a part of it and must conform to that order which he cannot change, that whatever the Deity has done is good, that all mankind are a man's brethren, that he must love and cherish them and try to make them better, even those who would do him harm. This is his conclusion (II. 17): "What then is that which is able to conduct a man? One thing and only one, Philosophy. But this consists in keeping the divinity within a man free from violence and unharmed, superior to pains and pleasures, doing nothing without a purpose nor yet falsely and with hypocrisy, not feeling the need of another man's doing or not doing anything; and besides, accepting all that happens and all that is allotted, as coming from thence, wherever it is, from whence he himself came; and finally waiting for death with a cheerful mind as being nothing else than a dissolution of the elements of which every living being is compounded. But if there is no harm to the elements themselves in each continually changing into another, why should a man have any apprehension about the change and dissolution of all the elements [himself]? for it is according to nature; and nothing is evil that is according to nature.” - Thoughts of Marcus Aurelius. What does it stir in your mind? Comment below.

Hey, too much photo revising, watch your classmates….#meme #funnyChinesepictures #amusing #picturerevising #Chineseonline

The Free Man
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25 Days 14 Hours Ago

Your character is portrayed by the actions that you take, especially when you are in the critical moments of your life as a man. If you’re shaken up, remember that going through these trying times are the dues that you need to pay in order to come closer to your desires. You desired something, because you didn’t have it, and that makes it valuable. Anything worth any value will come at an equivalent cost - be it your sweat and toil, be it your pain and suffering, be it the expense of money or energy, and so on. Train yourself, that from now whenever you are going to desire, that you are going to be ready to pay. Then when the suffering comes, you will go through it with peace of mind, rather than being shaken up. You will act rationally and with logic, like a Man of Reason, rather than embarrassing yourself under emotional duress. But remember one thing, if I have learned anything from reading the books written by the Greats, that contentment or happiness cannot be measured by the attainment of goals. They are simply states of mind. Going through the suffering does not guarantee permanent pleasure at the end. A man with a Ferrari is not necessarily more happy than a man with just a bicycle. The former could be getting sued for all he’s got by his own brother, while the latter is just happy that today he’s got clear skies to be riding under. Observe the faces on the streets and the expressions they display if you want to test my statement. Have goals, chase them, yet be free from them. Whether you are there or not should not determine your state of mind. Comment below whether you agree or disagree, and why?

The Free Man
(@sirhud.kalra)

2019-01-03 08:09:29

I haven’t talked about feminism since ages but came across this so wanted to share it - Why Feminism Has Intensified the Need for Studying Men Feminism suggested that God might be a "She" but not that the devil might also be a "she." Feminism articulated the shadow side of men and the light side of women. It neglected the shadow side of women and the light side “of men. And neglected to acknowledge that each sex has both sides within each individual. When the issue of sexual harassment surfaced, then, we were told "men don't 'get it' " when, in fact, neither sex "gets" it. Men don't get women's fears of harassment that stem from the passive role; women don't get men's fears of sexual rejection that stem from the initiating role. Each sex is so preoccupied with its own vulnerability that neither sex "gets" the other's vulnerability. The difference? Feminism has taught women to sue men for sexual harassment or date rape when men initiate with the wrong person or with the wrong timing; no one has taught men to sue women for sexual trauma for saying "yes," then "no," then "yes," then "no." Feminism left women with three sexual options—their old role, the "male" role, and the "victim" role. Men were left with less than one option—they were still expected to initiate, but now, if they did it badly, they could go to jail. For an adolescent boy who barely knows what sex is, this is a scary half-option.” - by Warren Farrell, prominent activist in the second wave feminist movement who later switched to supporting the men’s movement and the fathers’ rights movement. What do you think about what he said? Comment below.

The Free Man
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2018-12-23 08:10:07

Recently I had put a story asking if you indulge in overthinking about your future? A majority of you said yes. May I know what do you overthink about? What are these thoughts that come to you as soon as they get the chance? And are you just ‘thinking’ on them, or are you ‘meditating’ on them? Basically do you end up in the same state as where you began, or do you arrive at a different stage where either there’s more complexity or simplicity in those thoughts? Comment below and feel free to shoot me any question that you may have.

The Free Man
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25 Days 15 Hours Ago

The thing that addicts readers is the enthrall of another world that we are absorbed in whilst turning the pages of a weathered book. It’s almost like a vacuum is created around us, whether we’re reading in a cafe or in our own bedroom. That world within the vacuum is a world that you might be sharing with someone else, someone else who reads the same pages in their bedroom and is stimulated by the same subject. But maybe you don’t come across them in everyday life, Yet that is the kind of soul you wish you could connect with, on all levels, and be naked with. Naked intellectually, naked emotionally, spiritually and even physically. As a dating coach, that is the thought process which I instill in my clients. Now there is a way for you to find that connection, I’m proud to partner with @okcupid_india, a dating app that helps you discover that special like-minded soul, so you can find somebody that you can actually have a conversation with. And it could be any world, be it the world of reading, or sharing an interest in the same sport, to an activity such as backpacker travelling. In my case, substance wins over selfies in the search for that special someone. Download @okcupid_india and #matchonwhatmatters. (Link in bio). #booksoverselfies #substanceoverselfies #okcupid #sponsored

The Free Man
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2018-12-16 08:10:52

Brunch and beers with @surf_meister and @natasha_shrotri :) “dude where’s my yoga mat?!” #brunchtime #meditationspace #pune #punebloggers #yogamat #peaceofmind✌

The Free Man
(@sirhud.kalra)

2018-12-12 06:13:10

Some sartorial advice for the men today - you don’t always have to wear a belt. There is a lot of play when it comes to the waist of your trousers - not not many utilise those other options. Two major ones are - suspenders and side tabs. These work best for trousers on the formal side, for chinos and other kinds there are other alternatives. Here I’ve got side tabs on these trousers, the metal buckle and strap kind. You also get the ones with button adjustments. Depends on what your personal preference is, when I was getting these dark bottle green trousers tailored I decided to go with the silver buckle style. They are made of the same fabric, in order to maintain a discrete configuration. Helps me in creating a minimalistic and elongated look, something that is broken by the inclusion of a belt. How do you like the tip? Would you try it out whenever you go to your tailor next?

The Free Man
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2018-12-08 07:02:04

Whenever you’re going through shit in life, when you can’t figure out where you are or where you’re going, who you were and who you’re becoming - don’t force yourself to find a solution. You’ll only end up causing more internal friction if you use your faculties to push through that state, when everything refuses to play to your tune. Bask in the discomfort of the unknown, for you need to become comfortable with all things new to your Self and your Soul. I know it might be uncomfortable for you, if you’re someone who craves productivity, if you’re someone who craves the graph of your life to be on an upward swing all the time, in all areas of your life. You need to understand that Nature intends this, this state of confusion and questions without answers. There’s a lot of mysteries about it that we will never understand, yet it makes the Universe function continuously in Harmony that no man made invention can ever match. Give it some time, it’s probably concocting something that your imagination cannot fathom at the moment. Have faith in the Power that is much more powerful than your Power ever will be. It too shall pass, for that is the only truth that we know about time, it heals everything.

The Free Man
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2018-12-06 08:25:23

All I have been doing for the past few weeks is trying to figure out the dissonance between peace of mind and the external world. The world will always be chaotic, with people who stab you in the back, as well as those who do good for you without you ever knowing it. Money is an aspect, Love is an aspect, family is an aspect, and the list goes on. But to face the tumult that all these aspects go through as is constant in the cycle of life, it becomes exhausting to face all of them as One, with the Whole of You, the Self. I do not want my Whole Self to ride every tumultuous wave in every aspect, I can’t be caught up in the everyday, in the mundane, in the troughs and on the crests of every inconsequential state of emotion that riddles the ordinary human being (which, unfortunately, is all of us). I need my Center to be Tranquil, stationary, untouched and unmoved. If you resonate with me, try the solution that I’ve been concocting. I always knew at a subconscious level that I had various Sirhud’s within Sirhud, and now I’m bringing those mofos to the forefront of my conscience. If shit goes wrong in one aspect of life, I do not let it affect my Whole Self, instead I delegate it to that respective version of Sirhud, almost like an employee. Let that Sirhud handle it, let his ego be affected by it, his state of mind as well. The Centre of the Self does not need to bother, let it float where it is, nothingness, in infinity, without a beginning or an end, my lovely peace of mind - unattached and unaffected by the human race, not a prey of Time, endlessly orgasming into oblivion. Could be complicated, but does it hit any of your neurons? Comment your thoughts below.

The Free Man
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2018-11-30 22:58:56

A lot of love from us two to you all, that is all :) so much of learning has taken place this year for the two of us that it’s exploding in our head. Visions on visions, lessons on lessons, and realisation of how much we undervalue our blessings. We know we’ll never fit into any label; we’ll never be limited to social media alone, and we’ll never operate within any one industry. We weren’t born that way, and we have forever resisted all efforts of social conditioning, hate, frenemies, etc to force us into any mould. Big fucking shit in store for next year. More strength, power and positivity to you too, walk as much as you can on the path of the Free Man. Tag your best mates below :) #brotherhood #thefreeman #purposeoverpussy