Vesna Đukić-Williams
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In this time of division, #brexit 🇪🇺 & 🇬🇧, I love this wonderful gesture of kindness. My friend Haley bought this for me. She said it reminded her of me. Trust me, this whole Brexit affair will one day end. When I say trust me, you have to understand that I saw what divisions did to people in Bosnia. Divisions bring out the ugly in some. But what we have to remember is that this will truly one day end and we will still have to see each other and greet each other. We will feel embarrassed about our political arguments. We are intelligent species. We can be human and kind, and CIVIL in all of this. ✌️ ✌️ ✌️ * * * * #kindness #bekind #thoughts #mindfulness #mentalhealth #awareness #perception #mummyblogger #mamablogger #mommyblogger #britain #britishproblems #peace #human #kind #future #politics #friendforever #friends #british #european #human #mind #talk #bemindful #mindfull #humankind #opinion #worldaffairs #think

Happy Birthday to our big boy, Dragan. He is 14 today. 😱 He’s my best friend and my loyal confidant; he is the most loyal person I know. He is moody in the mornings, but yet he still (reluctantly) gives me cuddles before he goes to school. He is conscientious & caring, and genuinely tries to help in the house now, even though he puts his milk back into the cupboard sometimes, together with his cereal. 😂 (teenage hormones fully kicked in) He is a wonderful brother to Jovan (they bicker a lot though; it’s all normal! 😬) He is getting almost as tall as daddy; in fact, he lifted Rhys up this morning! Happy Birthday, our big boy. We love you so much! 😘😘😘 * * * * * #happybirthdaymyboy #happybirthday #son #myfirstborn #myboy #myson #mumofboys #momofboys #myfamily #mumofateenager #myteenager #mumlife #dadlife #momlife #mummyblogger #mamablogger #mommyblogger #family #outnumbered #loveyouson #familyfirst #myboys #parenting #british #serbian #sons #my14yearold #motherhood #parenthood #lifewithboys

Women. We lose ourselves along the way. We play so many roles in our lives. This starts with expected behaviour as young as little girls, then as women. We are meant to be looking, appearing, behaving appropriately, aspiring to one day become mothers and wives, to suit the society’s expectation of how a girl/young lady/a woman should look like, be and become. As we grow and develop, we are expected to behave and express ourselves appropriately. We are meant to be feminine, gentle, nurturing, caring, look after everyone first, ourselves second. We are meant to: be vulnerable, but not too needy, attractive, but not too attractive, look good, but not too good. We are expected to be loving, baby producing machines, agreeable, supportive...well, the list is big! Also, we are not meant to have many sexual partners, because this makes us promiscuous and “sluts”, but men are allowed to have as many sexual partners as they wish; they become ladies’ men. It’s the same all over the world. There still seem to be MANY glass ceilings that need to be broken. There simply isn’t enough in the companies’ support system that enables mothers to become CEOs & MDs more often. We need more maternity leave, more childcare funding, more nurseries on the companies’ sites, more time given for training and retraining, in order for the working mothers to catch up with their male counterparts, after mat leave. They need to be healthy in order to keep everything together and have a successful career. The life of a modern woman is hard, but not as hard as it used to be. Things are slowly getting better. But not quickly enough. I have two spirited boys. I feel so responsible for the future of their life partners & for their daughters’ lives one day. It starts now. They need to be educated on equality, respect, nurturing, love and that NO means NO. The lack of equal respect and the lack of equal rights for women troubles me deeply. Some women are still being sexually harassed in order for them to stay in their jobs or become more successful. Insane! I wish I had a daughter too, as well as my boys. Her middle name would have been #virago. #equality #woman #strongwomen #health #mindset #writer

Our planet is absolutely magnificent! We are so lucky to have such an amazing home. ❤️ “A rare natural phenomenon taking shape in the US state of Maine is mesmerising people around the world. A giant slow-turning ice disk, measuring approximately 91m (298ft) wide, has formed in the Presumpscot River in the city of Westbrook. The captivating natural oddity has drawn comparison to an alien spacecraft, a carousel and the Moon. Ice disks occur at bends in rivers where faster water creates a force that chips away edges as the ice spins. The large rotating disk has served as a raft for ducks and other birds, news reports said.” Source, BBC News. * * * * * * #planetearth #ourplanet #ourplanetdaily #nature #ourhome #world #beautiful #naturalphenomenon #ecosystem #bbcnews #ourworld #mumlife #momlife #mummyblogger #mamablogger #mommyblogger #mindfulness #gratitude

❤️👯❤️ Sestre. Sisters. My sister & I. As you can see, she lives near the Med and gets a lot more sunshine than I do in the UK. ☀️ 🌞☀️She’s standing in front of our family home, bathed in the afternoon winter’s sun, and I am standing underneath six bright LED kitchen lights! 😂 It’s so grey outside! Both photos were taken today. I miss her so much. Family is the most important thing in my life. We are two feisty Serbian ladies. Very proud, stubborn & as my husband often says to both of us: “You won’t be told!” 😂 Indeed, we are very feisty. Sparks fly between us, occasionally, too. 🤼‍♀️😂⚡️⚡️* * * * * #myfamily #mysister #sisters #familyfirst #serbianwomen #serbian #british #expatlife #expat #missmyfamily #republikasrpska #mummyblogger #mamablogger #mommyblogger #sestre #stubborn #proudofyou #proudsister #genetics #love #gratitude #ivegotyou #mediterranean #naturalwomen #realwomen #bodypositive #womenempowerment #womenempoweringwomen #effyourbeautystandards

Mental Illness Is Real.
Depression, PTSD, PND, ADD, ADHD...there are many medically diagnosed forms of mental illness.
Some say that people who commit suicides are cowards and selfish.
Who are we to judge? We don’t know what goes on in people’s minds.
But simply, they aren’t weak, cowards or selfish. They’re just very poorly. We can’t even imagine the pain and suffering of a suicidal person. They just desperately need help.
It affects me deeply, that there is still this stigma attached to mental health.
We live in 2019! We have UNLIMITED information on mental health, but the mental illness stigma is still very much present.  Some people still say that it isn’t a real illness.
Who are we to undermine mental health experts, doctors?! These people have spent most of their adult lives studying medicine and human mind, human mental health. They are experts. They acknowledge it. They accept it as a REAL illness.
We can’t EVER imagine the pain and struggles of people who take their own lives. Whether this is because they are addicts or not. They are/were suffering immensely.
People become addicts because of a mental illness. Because of trauma. There is so much that can be done. There is so much being done already.
We need to take trauma seriously. We need to treat it early.
If you suspect a relative or a friend is suffering from depression or from trauma, please do something to help them. Try hard to give them some extra strength to seek help. There is so much help available out there. And, if you live in the UK, it is free. It's on our amazing NHS. I am not sure how it works in other countries, but there must be a way.
If you are suffering, please don’t suffer in silence. It is good to talk. Please, if you are feeling unwell, please talk to someone.
If you feel that you can’t talk yet, please try and write it down & then do what ever you wish to do with it, whether you keep it or burn it or post it away...what ever works. But please don’t suffer in silence.
If you aren’t comfortable with people knowing that you need help, nobody has to know. Nobody but you and your doctor. Mental health is paramount to our existence. #mentalhealth #nostigma #health #mind

#effyourbeautystandards Instaperfect is harmful. WHAT good does it do? It puts pressure on women to aspire to unrealistic expectations and goals. This applies to young women and to women of my age, in their forties. It is not good for our mental health. Because life is not rosy & perfect. Rosy lives, perfectly styled living rooms, chic bathrooms & designer dressed children are not most of our realities. Keeping up with the Jones’s will only get us in more debt. And when do we stop? When will we be happy? Also, the same applies to striving to always look perfect and have perfectly presented pictures on Instagram. Why?! What will it do? Get us more followers to feed our egos? I LOVE social media; it’s connected me with some wonderful people. It can be so positive. But all this pretence is not good for us. We lose touch with reality. We compete with the unreal. The likelihood is that the perfectly posed picture of a woman in her sports gear happened moments before she did a HIIT workout. And before she sat down on her sofa, with her arms still shaking and her armpits almost fitting for Januhairy, to have her cold dinner after everyone has had theirs, spilling her food on her top, because she is knackered; like me in this picture. With all my mama rolls and jelly belly. This is Instareal. Real life. Not perfect. Just real. I truly take a stand against staged perfect. It’s arbitrary, vain, harmful & completely and utterly unnecessary. * * * * * #instareal #reallife #mentalhealth #mentalwellbeing #womenshealth #motherhood #parenting #parentingtheshitoutoflife #wellbeing #wellness #keepingitreal #kindness #selflove #selfcare #thisismotherhood #mumlife #momlife #mummyblogger #mamablogger #mommyblogger #notperfect #inspiration #motivation #bethechange #naturalwoman #realwoman #mindfulness #wife #familylife

Ten years ago & now. Wow! 42 this year & how things have changed! No Botox, no fillers, no facelift. I am a mother to a teenage boy, to a five year old boy & a wife to my husband of nearly seventeen years. I wear my wrinkles and lines with pride. I am embracing my age and I LOVE growing old disgracefully! 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻 Embrace you too! You are perfect to your loved ones, just the way you are. Everyone else’s opinion doesn’t matter. I love being 41. Happy Monday; be kind to you! * * * * * * #natural #naturalwoman #selfcare #selflove #selfkindness #growingolddisgracefully #effyourbeautystandards #bodypositive #positivemindset ##10yearchallenge #health #mentalhealth #love #mindfulness #mumlife #momlife #dadlife #mummyblogger #mamablogger #mommyblogger #womenempowerment #womenempoweringwomen #youaregoodenough #youareperfect #wellbeing #wellness #jumpingonthebandwagon

Happy Monday everyone. We live in a beautiful world. Do something nice today. Do a random act of kindness. Most people don’t like Mondays; make it nice for them. ❤️ * * * * * #happymonday #bekind #kindness #randomactsofkindness #makeadifference #beautifulworld #begrateful #inspiration #motivation #positivevibes #positivemindset #mumlife #momlife #dadlife #mentalhealth #wellbeing #mindfulness

~My daddy; his face could tell a thousand stories! ~ In September 1995, during the Bosnian Civil War, my father Jovan, called Lolica, singlehandedly saved 174 lives, as our village was being attacked. For the last twenty years, Bosnian War has had so much bad press; yet nobody knows about all the good, brave people who risked their lives to help others, from all sides of Bosnia. He also did this extraordinary act of bravery. When ever our dad was home, he used to bring our neighbours’ children to sleep in our home, knowing that our house was the safest in our village; these children were “from the enemy side”. Imagine Northern Ireland; imagine my dad was a Catholic man, in a Catholic village, but he was taking the minority Protestant children in to protect them from the nobodies who suddenly got hold of weapons and for the first time in their lives, they had power. My father risked his life to help protect these innocent children. He’d say to us: “Their parents and I grew up together; they’re my children too. They would protect you too, if they had to.” He used to bring them in as soon as it was dark, and he took them back before dawn. He and mum also fostered the neglected, troubled young minds & gave them a home and a safe place every now and again. I have written a book about my father’s fearless love of good, his selfless bravery and about kindness in this horrid war that we were part of. I want to honour my father and the people who helped my family. I have also written about PTSD and trauma. My father has been suffering from PTSD for more than two decades. He is not alone. My wish is to set up a trust fund to help veterans like my father receive adequate care and therapy. We & many, owe him so much. After everything that’s he’s been through, he keeps loving, giving & protecting and believing in good people. Happy Birthday tata. We love you so much. #father #daddy #mentalhealth #love #bravery #family #myhero #dadlife #dad #strength #amazingpeople #brave #strong #mydaddy #iphonography #ptsd #wellness #happyplace #writer #tata # #veteran #goodvibes #proud #familyfirst #dadsmatter #truestory #dadlife #mumlife #momlife

I had post natal/partum depression with both of my boys. You get into a vicious cycle where you don’t fully care of yourself or of your body. With the wonderful help of our NHS (National Health Service) which is free in the UK, I feel like I am finally getting on top of my mental and physical health. I know I will still have some days where I will have the lows again, but they don’t last long. Also, I have learnt to surround myself with positive people and when they say it takes a “village”, it really does. Please know that you simply can’t do it all on your own and you should never have to. If you are a single parent, with no family around you, there are many charities out there who can help you. And if you live in the UK, our NHS can help you with such kindness and compassion. Please trust me, they truly can. The other thing that has happened to Rhys and I, we have educated ourselves about nutrition. It’s been an eye opener how much energy there is in some every day foods we tend to consume in the West. My husband started using a website called Cronometer.com It’s genius! (This is not an ad btw.) It’s free and it gives you a nutritional breakdown of all the foods you consume in the day. It also tells you if you are in calorie deficit or if you have consumed too much energy. It also tells you if you have consumed enough vitamins and minerals for the day. It’s really easy to use and like I said, it’s free. Since I started using this, last weekend, I have lost 2kgs. This is not a fad diet, or I am not suggesting that you should cut out any foods out of your diet. This is just a wonderful tool to use so you can see what you are consuming too much of, or not enough of. My smoothie consists of one banana, frozen strawberries, frozen spinach, unsweetened almond milk, a teaspoon of honey & a teaspoon of peanut butter. It is SO yummy, nutritious and filling; it’s packed with fibre. Boiled eggs are a wonderful source of nutrition and they are great for weight loss. I am sorry if I bored you with this, I am just sharing an exciting discovery, to me. I am learning to be kind to me. #maternalmentalhealth #pnd #ppd #selflove #mumlife #momlife #womenshealth #nutrition

~Bus chronicles of a tired mother & misophonia.~ Sadly I don’t have a picture of a bus, or of the subjects on the bus, so I shall use this one that my husband took of me when our teenage son said for the trillionth time “I can’t find it!”. Anyhow. I am on the bus. There is a young couple sitting behind me. Their English is text English. They are both sucking on some lollipops. SHE is sucking on her lollipop SO loudly. HE keeps snorting really loudly. I am one of those people who really doesn’t like it when other people eat loudly. My whole body is slowly filling up with uncontrollable, irrational, unnecessary rage. I keep thinking: “How does she not notice?!” Her lollipop might be coming out of the back of her neck any minute now. Perhaps I should contact Quentin Tarantino. This scenario is right up his street. Oh, sweet Baby Jeebus. Help! * * * * * * #onthebus #rudepeople #mannersmatter #manners #misophonia #tiredmama #tired #mumlife #mummyblogger #funnysituation #momlife #dadlife #mumofboys #momofboys #tooloud #quietplease #mentalhealth #publictransport #parenting #wellbeing #mindfulofothers #mindfulness #annoying #mum #mama #mom #millenials #husbandandwife #writer

Have you ever been to Salisbury, Wiltshire, UK? If you haven’t, you should visit. It is absolutely full of history, wonderful old architecture & its people are the nicest! The nicest! I have been here since 2005 and this place has truly become my home. My boys were born here, and some of my best friends live here. I also run my business here. You all know I LOVE my real coffee. So I go to places with good coffee and to child friendly places. Our local Starbucks is a bit of a hub for mums & babes, and it’s great. But this place, Cobbs at Wilton, is just wonderful. They serve wonderful coffee, beautiful food AND the back of the cafe has toys and books for our little ones. Genius! This morning I had...a bit of a morning. I look after two wonderful little women who are fairly new to each other. They are very clever, intelligent, strong willed, stubborn and proud little women. They are two each and SO cute. But I have to say, this morning was a little...character building. 😂 We got to the cafe, I had a coffee and carried out peace making for...a while. Once we diffused the stand off, this wonderful manager of the cafe came over with a fresh cup of coffee. She said: “As I can see, you are having a bit of a difficult morning. This one is on me.” I honestly nearly cried. I had goosebumps all over me. She was so kind and thoughtful. I love the cafe, and after this morning, I love it even more! As I left the cafe, I gave her a hug. Her kind gesture meant so much to me! I think the manager’s name is Amy. So Amy, thank you, from the bottom of my heart. I strongly recommend this cafe. This is not an ad. ☕️ 🍼 🍪 🧁 🍰 #kindness #empathy #compassion #cafe #coffee #childfriendly #work #workingmum #workingmom #mumlife #momlife #dadlife #cobbsatwilton #salisburyuk #salisburywiltshire #salisburycathedral #visitsalisbury #travel #mummyblogger #mummybloggeruk #mommyblogger #mamablogger #parenting #parents #mums #dads #localcafe #localbusiness #wiltshire #cake

Oh, Facebook memories, you pull at my heart strings. How has my first born turned into this young man?! He is 14 next week. When did this happen?! He will probably kill me in my sleep for posting this. 😂😂😂 Love you Dragan. 😘😘😘 * * * * #myfirstborn #myson #motherandson #fatherandson #mumlife #momlife #dadlife #mummyblogger #mummybloggeruk #mommyblogger #mamablogger #mumofboys #momofboys #facebookmemories

I was sitting in my running gear, after doing a crappy run this evening. I was frustrated. I had planned to go to a gym class, but because of my work, I couldn’t make it in the end. I ended up working a lot longer than usual. I was sitting on the sofa, huffing & puffing. I was annoyed that the Christmas holidays are over. It was so nice to spend a lot of time with my three men and it was so nice spending time with my bestie and our UK family. It was so nice not to do the school runs; I love my work, but the school runs sometimes terrify me as some people drive like idiots. I was annoyed that my day hadn’t gone according to my plan. But it’s always a chain effect, isn’t it. One late pick up results in a missed gym class, which causes a “never knowingly to under-react” Serb to say “Rrrraaahhhhh!” & “Nothing!” “I don’t know. Stop asking questions!” And then my husband said: “I think you’d like this.” And I sat down, reluctantly, and started watching this film. It was absolutely wonderful. Perceptive, insightful, funny, real, body positive and empowering. I loved it! It’s called Swimming With Men. It’s a British film (I LOVE British films) and it’s on Netflix. Loved it. It completely changed my mood and my outlook on my day. It was all in my head. Yes, things didn’t go according to plan, but so what. Everyone was fine. @brydon_rob * * * * #britishfilm #swimmingwithmen #swimming #mentalhealth #menshealth #comedy #parenting #marriage #mumlife #momlife #dadlife #worklifebalance #health #mummyblogger #mamablogger #mommyblogger #inspiration #motivation #mindset #mind #bodypositive #wellbeing #mindfulness #movie

* I’m still working. It’s late; I’m hungry! Paperwork. Reports. I’m hungry. Assessments. I’m hungry even more now. Risk assessments. This is ridiculous! I’m starving! Fire drill. Oh my God, I am so hungry, this can’t be good for me! Archiving. Well, goodbye my friends, nice knowing you! Aaarrrrggghhhhh! I can’t stop thinking of all the Christmas food! 🥩🥓🍖🥮🧁 * * * * #stillworking #hungry #food #mumlife #momlife #dadlife #healthylifestyle #healthylifestyle #paperwork #workingmum #workingmom #foodobsessed #wellness #wellbeing #mummybloggeruk #bloggeruk #mommyblogger #mamablogger #selfemployed #smallbusiness #localbusiness

* ~ Save A Life ~ This one really got to me. I get emotional every time I receive this text. But as a mother of two children, this confirmation made me well up. I was walking back from school with my little tribe, when I received the text and I have to say, it took some strength not to cry. Please, please, if you live in the UK and if you are medically allowed to donate blood, please register @givebloodnhs If you live elsewhere, please register with your national health service. Women can donate blood three times a year and men can donate blood four times a year. Please, please, please - every time we donate, we will help save a life. Be a superhero, a true superhero and register now. Thank you 🙏🏼 @givebloodnhs * * * #savealife #life #health #parent #parenting #parenthood #motherhood #fatherhood #mumlife #dadlife #momlife #blooddonor #donateblood #beablooddonor #savelives #mindfulness #kindness #thoughtfulness #mummyblogger #mommyblogger #mamablogger #doctor #nurse #doctors #nurses #nhs #inspiration #motivation #mum #mom

My candles are still going strong. Today is the third & the final day of Christian Orthodox Christmas and I will be sad to put away my handmade decorations tomorrow morning. I love Christmas, British and Serbian and I truly turn into a very excited little girl before both of the Christmases. I love teaching our sons about different customs here in the UK & from back home. I personally find the rituals very comforting. I am loving this January. It’s so bright and sunny outside. On the other hand, my washing machine has packed in 😂 Just waiting for the engineer to arrive. Let’s hope it’s not too much. 😬 * * * * * #serbianchristmas #myhome #candles #beeswaxcandles #handmade #homemade #madebyme #homedecor #january #sunnyday #bluesky #positivethinking #wellness #traditional #mumlife #momlife #dadlife #familylife #expat #expatlife #handcrafted #newtalent #homeinterior #localbusiness #smallbusiness